When everyday becomes so casual, that changes throw you off your everyday occurrences, that somehow complicate the reality and the fantasy becomes your actuality…
Assumptions turn into devastation, and cause future placements misinterpretations of aggravation. It becomes hard for alleviation to take place and correct the shattered past relation. Causing heavy deterioration of this new strange affiliation of love that has been your new reality and your still stuck on the fantasy of hope… missing out on new beginnings worrying about what you were missing depriving yourself of a revelation that's now more complicated…..all because of an assumption!
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Listen to yourself........sometimes.....
Don't you just hate it when you find yourself upset because you knew "it" was going to happen? Only to say later on that next time I am going to follow my heart. Yeah trust me I have been there numerous times only to find myself back at square one upset at myself. If you learn to follow, your instincts nine times out of ten you would find yourself in a better situation in the end. You will not have to worry about second-guessing everything and later regretting the decision. Your instincts are like a natural caution sign. Sometimes let those natural impulses guide you in the right direction rather than reason you just might yourself in a better predicament.
Does age matter?
When does age matter? Is there such a point? And I’m not entertaining those that are under 18yrs old we ALL (should) know better than that I'm talking all LEGAL HERE..... Seriously at what point does age matter? I have seen men with younger women and women with younger men. I've seen younger men with older women and younger women with older men. When is it not ok to date beyond or below the norm? I have recently found myself asking that question to my all of my close friends because of a current umm...courtship that's well on its way. I have heard many positive and many negative remarks and frankly, I do not think it should matter if both ADULTS are willing to make it work. With all the feedback I have received, I think that age only matters when the people involve makes it an issue. I figured that everyone has the same concerns and the same expectations as everyone else when it comes to a relationship: on what they expect, what they want to get out of it, rather or not the person pleases them, etc etc. you know how it goes. There has been a lot of successful relationship where one person is older than the other oh and before you comment I’m talking about 10 yrs plus+++++++++++++++ lol
Relafriendship...2B/X2B
Due to recent events I have a question, I guess that's what it is… well see for yourself…..
Why is it so easy for a guy or girl in the beginning of a relafriendship (yes a new word in today's world hell Diddy made up bitchassness) to have fun and enjoy each other but once it’s over things become complicated?
Relafriendship: when two people hook up, and do things that people do when they are in a relationship but they still friends…no decision were made on rather or not they will be actually (boyfriend and girlfriend) and they continue with the behavior.
Any-hoo… back to business…. In the beginning of a RELAFRIENDSHIP everything's cool. You have fun, you get compliments, you go out on dates, everything is peaches and cream especially the screwing. (in some cases cause sometimes it's not good…lol) Then like the soap opera "As the World Turns" shit changes. (mind you, you never defined what the status of your relafriendship actually was you just was going with the flow)….(I guess)… You have been kicking with this person then like a switch shit flips….all of a sudden things that use to be isn't. Things that were expected you can’t expect anymore. You are still in a relafriendship sort of, kind of, when it becomes convenient. Which brings me to this question…. If it was so easy to start, why is it that the person that wants out make it so hard to stop? Meaning how come people can't just say how they feel when they are feeling it?
As I said in the beginning due to recent events, I have been listening to my friends complain male and female alike and hell I went thru it before as well. Therefore, I want to say this so we can stop the craziness in RELAFRIENDSHIPING. If you know damn well you have no plans on being with somebody seriously straighten that shit out in the beginning so there will be no confusion in the end… now how hard is that?…. I say that to those who violate RULE NUMBER 1: you don't spend time with people for months on end and think its ok to just quit because the wind blew. Meaning ( if you know you don't want to be serious with that person don't do boyfriend and girlfriend stuff…just fuck and go the hell home)….lol no but seriously if you never define from jump someone get hurts in the end especially if you were a rule number 1 violator.
How fair is it to the person who has not moved yet? How fair it is to the other person thinking everything is the same when you just up and changed? You honestly don't have to say anything, you could just walk away. What is so bad about giving the other person a heads up? Why not just say you don't want to do it anymore? Don’t you think that would help so that the other person does not continue to think there is something still there when it in fact it is not because you moved on?
So I guess to sum all this up do not relafriendship and violate Rule #1 if you do not mean it!
Why is it so easy for a guy or girl in the beginning of a relafriendship (yes a new word in today's world hell Diddy made up bitchassness) to have fun and enjoy each other but once it’s over things become complicated?
Relafriendship: when two people hook up, and do things that people do when they are in a relationship but they still friends…no decision were made on rather or not they will be actually (boyfriend and girlfriend) and they continue with the behavior.
Any-hoo… back to business…. In the beginning of a RELAFRIENDSHIP everything's cool. You have fun, you get compliments, you go out on dates, everything is peaches and cream especially the screwing. (in some cases cause sometimes it's not good…lol) Then like the soap opera "As the World Turns" shit changes. (mind you, you never defined what the status of your relafriendship actually was you just was going with the flow)….(I guess)… You have been kicking with this person then like a switch shit flips….all of a sudden things that use to be isn't. Things that were expected you can’t expect anymore. You are still in a relafriendship sort of, kind of, when it becomes convenient. Which brings me to this question…. If it was so easy to start, why is it that the person that wants out make it so hard to stop? Meaning how come people can't just say how they feel when they are feeling it?
As I said in the beginning due to recent events, I have been listening to my friends complain male and female alike and hell I went thru it before as well. Therefore, I want to say this so we can stop the craziness in RELAFRIENDSHIPING. If you know damn well you have no plans on being with somebody seriously straighten that shit out in the beginning so there will be no confusion in the end… now how hard is that?…. I say that to those who violate RULE NUMBER 1: you don't spend time with people for months on end and think its ok to just quit because the wind blew. Meaning ( if you know you don't want to be serious with that person don't do boyfriend and girlfriend stuff…just fuck and go the hell home)….lol no but seriously if you never define from jump someone get hurts in the end especially if you were a rule number 1 violator.
How fair is it to the person who has not moved yet? How fair it is to the other person thinking everything is the same when you just up and changed? You honestly don't have to say anything, you could just walk away. What is so bad about giving the other person a heads up? Why not just say you don't want to do it anymore? Don’t you think that would help so that the other person does not continue to think there is something still there when it in fact it is not because you moved on?
So I guess to sum all this up do not relafriendship and violate Rule #1 if you do not mean it!
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